In the day and age in which we live, much of our time is consumed by a seemingly never-ending onslaught of messages encouraging us to be different or to change. These messages are often subliminal, and that’s precisely the way advertising and marketing agencies engineer it. They hope to enter a person’s subconscious so that they will take the bate and buy whatever is being sold.
When people feel a sense of lacking in their lives, they tend to buy things they don’t need. This is all in the hope that their new shoes or sports bag will fill some hole and banish that lacking sensation, but that feeling is only ever fleeting at best and never really fills the hole. This makes being authentic or just being your true self increasingly challenging, especially for those born into the targeted smartphone in-app advertising generation. Those from yesteryear claim that personal authenticity came naturally back in the day and took less effort to achieve than it does these days. Things like honesty, pride, and integrity don’t come so easy to some people, but there are some easy ways one can learn to be authentic and to turn that into a habit that comes naturally.
Accepting and even embracing your true self is the first step to being the most authentic version of you. With all those adverts and TV shows telling you to buy this or to be like that, it’s no wonder that some people lose their way and their authenticity. Every person needs to remember daily that they are unique and special, but more importantly, that they are just fine the way they are. Nobody’s perfect, and that’s alright, but the first thing to do is accept yourself for who you are and never be ashamed about that. Some people tell themselves positive messages out loud or in front of the mirror, while others leave strategic post-it notes around the house. Accepting yourself is primary when it comes to genuine, heartfelt authenticity. Listening to your inner voice or intuition is another step in the right direction when it comes to self-acceptance. If something feels right in your gut, it often is, whereas the opposite is also usually true.
Doubting oneself or one’s own abilities is very damaging when it comes to working on improving authenticity. Lacking confidence in one’s appearance or abilities is bad enough, but it has an even worse effect over time and often leads to low self-esteem. Being authentic means believing in yourself no matter what, and that’s easier said than done when you doubt yourself the whole time. Building self-esteem by believing in yourself and your abilities is crucial, and telling yourself those positive messages regularly is the best way forward. Once you’ve worked on accepting yourself, building a positive self-perception of yourself that you keep with you daily is the best advice. Bear in mind that there’s a very fine line between healthy self-perception and esteem and arrogance. The last thing you want is to come across as bolshy as that’s a sure sign of low self-esteem and someone who has little self-awareness in the majority of cases.
In many things in life, when you behave in a certain way regularly and make that behavior a part of your everyday routine, you train yourself to think in a certain way and to follow a more consistent path. Starting the day with mindful or guided meditation is another great tip. Trying to incorporate into that daily ritual, some positive mantras can also be helpful. When your day starts for real, the idea here is to have trained your behavior to be a certain way, such as greeting everyone at the office calmly and with a smile no matter what mood you’re in at the time. Stay away from lies, even little white ones, and practice being helpful and pleasant in all your interactions, whether with a pushy boss or an annoying customer. Expressing your real opinions about a matter is also vital. The most authentic people are comfortable in their own skin and don’t feel overly inhibited or restricted when it comes to giving a piece of their mind or sharing the thoughts felt deep down